5 Habits of Self-Made Millionaires

1. Snowball Your Money

People who end up very, very rich, think of money as material.  It’s not, first and foremost, the gateway to wacky hijinks or to excess.  Instead it’s a tool for building more money.  Millionaires look for the kind of money that allows them to safely do what they want , sums large enough to pass on to the kids, to amount to power and independence.  It’s not about getting just enough money to buy some fun and fine things.
Therefore, millionaires begin putting money away as soon as they can, a bit more aggressively than others, investing in funds more than just opening savings accounts, engaging in more and more risk as the snowball effect kicks in.

2. Ride The Wave of Uncertainty

Steve Siebold, author of How Rich People Think,” says, “Physical, psychological, and emotional comfort is the primary goal of the middle class mindset,” In other words, people with middling incomes who stay that way have comfort and safety as prime goals—they’re not achieving great riches because they are afraid to try, feeling it would be a shame to lose a decent position in life due to a failed business or a bad investement.
The goal of those who become ultra-rich is to do so.  They aren’t attempting to be sure not to suffer in any way, not to have to ride out waves.  Self-made millionaires don’t get there just because they think it’d be fun; rather, they earn it by dealing with great uncertainty.  Yes, they sometimes fail, but they know how to pick themselves up afterward, rather than feeling only the need to regain some certainty.

3. Choose Not to Choose

We’re taught about yin and yang and about making priorities.  If you want to become very rich, you’ll have to sacrifice time with your family.  Or perhaps it’s idealism or part of your soul or peace and quiet, or time for church.  To some extent, this relates to the desire for comfort—the average person wants to be able to comfortably find balance.
Those who go on to be millionaires find a way to accomplish that which others would find impossible—it may involve rushing around, deftly juggling schedules, paying people to do certain tasks, but they do the things other people don’t have the stomach for.

4. Money Isn’t For Money’s Sake

Any good card player will advise to think of the chips as chips not as real money.  Even if you’re at a buddy’s house with actual money on the table, think of what you’re betting as a game piece—if you think of actual cash value, you’ll get too conservative, which can mean making the wrong moves.
Similarly, while self-made millionaires do wish to be very rich, they’re not thinking of the money itself.  As I mentioned above, they think of money as a tool—for freedom, choices, not having to be beholden to others.  For many ultra-rich, money isn’t for many small things like shoes and mp3 players, but fewer big things like voyages around the world, homes, and perhaps that pro sports team they’ve always wanted.

5. Hang Out With Millionaires

Being around other millionaires, of course, encourages networking and opportunities.  But it also gives one the chance to see for themselves the habits I’ve been describing.  It will give one a chance to emulate people in a way that will lead to success.

Source: http://frugalentrepreneur.com/2014/09/5-habits-of-self-made-millionaires

4 Ways to Systematically Replace Your Limiting Habits with Empowering Habits

Imagine this scenario…

What if you could systematically break down all of the bad habits that are currently holding you back from achieving your goals?

What if you could then re engineer those habits so that they actually supported your goals?

There are some habits that move us closer towards our goals in life, we’ll call those empowering habits. Then, there are some that move us further away from the achievement of those goals, we’ll call those limiting habits.

Your goal should be to constantly reduce the limiting habits, and maximize the empowering habits.

How do you accomplish this?

Step 1: Identify Your Limiting Habits

The first step is to simply identify which habits are limiting your success.

You identify these limiting habits by first knowing what goals you’re currently trying to accomplish. After you know your goals, ask yourself which actions you perform on a regular basis that are holding you back from achieving that goal.

For instance, say you have a goal of losing weight, but you also have a bad habit of eating unhealthy fast food. That habit is limiting the achievement of your goal.

Step 2: Identify The Cue for Your Limiting Habit

Once you know your limiting habit, the next step is to identify the cue for that bad habit. What is the trigger that sets your bad habit in motion?

Cues can come in many different forms, so it helps to narrow your focus on a few areas:

• Time – What time is it?
• Location – Where are you?
• Emotion – How are you feeling?
• Other People – Who are you with?
• Preceding Action – What did you just do?

The next time you catch yourself performing that limiting habit, take quick second and look at these 5 areas. You’ll eventually start to notice a trend.

Maybe your bad habit shows up every day at 2:00pm. Or maybe every time you’re with you one of your buddies, that bad habit shows up. Or maybe whenever you get upset or sad you fall into your limiting habit.

Pay close enough attention, for a long enough time, and you’ll eventually see the pattern.

Step 3: Identify the Reward for Your Limiting Habit

Once you’ve recognized the pattern and found the cue that’s setting your limiting habit in motion, you want to identify the reward you’re receiving from the habit. What’s the big, positive thing you get from performing that habit?

I know, this may seem a little confusing. I told you that limiting habits are moving you away from your goals, but now I’m saying they provide you with a reward?

Let me explain.

A reward is anything that brings pleasure. But just because something brings pleasure, doesn’t always mean it provides a positive outcome.

For instance, overeating is limiting habit many people deal with. It provides the pleasure of eating delicious food and filling up your body, but then there are also negative consequences, like gaining weight, and destroying your health.

The reward for your limiting habit could be social, like someone telling you “Good Job!” The reward could be something tangible like getting paid. And some rewards occur naturally as a result of habit. For instance, if you walk on the treadmill for 30 minutes, you’ll burn 300 calories.

Do quick “pulse check” on your limiting habit and see what reward it’s providing you with. What’s the good feeling coming from that limiting habit? Why do you keep doing it?

Step 4: Find a New Action

Once you’ve found your cue and your reward, the only step left is to then replace the negative action, with a positive one.

But there’s one caveat, whatever new action you choose, must provide the same reward and be triggered by the same cue.

Putting It All Together

So let’s look at an example that ties everything together.

I had a goal of increasing my health, but I also had a bad habit of snacking on junk food. Every time I caught myself slipping into the bad habit, I began to pay close attention to those five areas (time, location, emotion, other people, preceding action).

I eventually found the pattern. Every time I was hungry and tired, I opted for junk food instead of a healthier alternative.

So my cue was being hungry and tired at mealtime, and my reward was getting something quick and easy to eat.

I replaced that limiting habit of snacking on junk food, with a different, empowering habit, of eating a smaller, healthier snack that would hold me over until I actually cooked something healthy. I used the same cue, and the same reward. I just replaced the action I was performing.

Source: http://addicted2success.com/success-advice/4-ways-to-systematically-replace-your-limiting-habits-with-empowering-habits

How Do I Choose My Mentor?

If you’ve considered getting a mentor to lead you on your path to management, leadership or business success, it’s fairly likely you’ve spent a good amount of timing thinking ‘how do I find the right person?’ Well, you’re not alone, I write and lecture about mentoring, and I’m often asked this question.

Finding the perfect mentor

Mentors can become life-long supporters, advocates and trusted advisors.  They can steer your path, help you form both good and bad habits, and influence your focus.  When you’re about to ask someone to be your mentor, think carefully: is this person someone I can work closely with? Do I admire them? Do they have the same values as me? Have they ever considered mentoring?

If you already know the mentor as a friend or work connection, consider the impact your new relationship will have on your current one.  There may be times when you don’t agree. Perhaps your new relationship as mentor and mentee may not work out? How will that affect your current friendship?

How to be realistic about a new mentoring relationship

Don’t forget a mentoring relationship isn’t like a marriage or partnership; you don’t have to be fully compatible to make it work.  It’s great if you can be friends, but it’s not a necessity for it to be a working relationship that achieves. That said, like a marriage or partnership, when it goes wrong it can leave bad feelings in both parties.

Don’t choose a mentor based on some romantic notion that being associated with them will bring you the same levels of success as they have achieved.  Mentoring relationships can indeed be very successful, but there are times when they are not so great. Achieve very little, and you will leave people disappointed.  I have also known people who felt let down by a mentor, but achieved great things despite the lack of support.

Here are 10 things you should consider when choosing your mentor:

1. Do you respect or admire them and their skills/success/achievement?
2. Do they understand what you are aiming to achieve?
3. Have they been there, seen it, done it, and able to offer real experiences to support your work?
4. How likely are they to give you a ‘leg up’?
5. Do they have a personal interest in you/your career/your business and is it for the right reason – to help you and not themselves?
6. Do you think you can be yourself with them? You need to be honest with them about your aims, your abilities, your fears and your failures.
7. Do they have similar values and morals as you? Or are their opinions likely to jar with your own and cause difficulties?
8. Can you image spending time with them and being able to share experiences and ideas?
9. Do you trust them to be professional, discreet and respect confidentiality?
10. Will they add value to your work and your personal development?

Be careful when choosing your mentor; don’t go out hunting for the right person. You often find someone will come along at the right time with the background and personality that will suit your needs.

This is by no means an exhaustive list of things to consider when choosing a mentor; I’d love to hear your experiences of choosing a mentor. What things do you feel should be considered?

Source: http://birdsontheblog.co.uk/choose-mentor